Climb the Tree, Get the Fruit

22 Apr

There are those people who sit under a tree waiting for the fruit to fall down, and there are those who climb the tree to get the fruit themselves. The former group is passive: these types of people expect life to give them everything they want without making an effort to get it themselves. The latter group is active: they do not wait for opportunities – they make them; they see possibility in everything.

I have known both types of people. I had an acquaintance who spent his days regretting giving up the guitar: he was one of the most talented students in his music school, but decided not to pursue a musical career and picked a more academic subject to study at university. His regret for giving up a musical path would send him into depression every time he watched someone play the guitar. However, despite his ‘grief’, he did nothing to get himself onto the musical path once again. He had several guitars at home – he would never practice; he had connections with many musicians – he did not ask them for gig or concert opportunities; he had perfect pitch and a great knowledge of music theory – he did not try to find students to teach. In short, he expected opportunity to fall into his lap from the sky; he wanted to wake up one day and be a successful guitarist without the effort that goes into it. The people who expect miracles without putting in any work believe that they are victims of an unjust fate. Spending time with these people leaves you tired and lacking in energy, you start to become blind to the beauty of life.

As for the second group, I have been lucky to know many people who make their own opportunities and create their own fate. One friend choreographed and taught a dance for our university dance show, whilst having almost ten essays to write during the same time period of time – she managed to do both brilliantly. Another friend applies (and gets selected) to do unique programmes abroad each summer: Israel and Zimbabwe are two of the places where she has done study and research projects. A friend from school took a year out of university to live in Columbia and perfect his Spanish; “I want to plan my life in my own way. I don’t want a university course system or anything else to tell me that I can’t take great opportunities to do things like this”, he said. Other friends have run marathons, written plays and cycled across Europe. These people are full of energy, full of hope and full of optimism. It is not their ‘achievements’ that inspire so much as their love for life. It is their belief that life is abundant, life has given them everything and that all they have to do is just make the most of it.

I myself have been both of these types: there are times when I jumped at every opportunity and made opportunities for myself. But there were also times when I lacked motivation and energy, when I wanted to change aspects of my life, but took no action to do so. Now, during moments like these, I always try to think about the active people that I know:they would get their asses up and do something to create change. It could be the smallest change, but it is still something that gets life into motion, that stirs the universe and turns the wheels of our destiny. Thinking of these people reminds me that I have absolutely no excuses not to be living the life of which I dream.

Whenever you are feeling unmotivated, lacking in energy or in hope, think about someone who has inspired you, be it a friend, an acquaintance or a famous individual. Remember that one must climb the tree to get the fruit; the height may be scary and the braches may scratch you along the way, but the view is so much better from the top.

11 Responses to “Climb the Tree, Get the Fruit”

  1. pcadams 22/04/2011 at 14:35 #

    When I was a boy, our neighbor two doors down had an enormous persimmon tree. The fruit was delicious. One day my brother decided to pluck one from a branch and pop it in his mouth. Oh, how sour that persimmon was.

    For everyone knows that a persimmon is not fully ripe until it has fallen to the ground.

    Apples, on the other hand, are better when picked. The ones that fall make good cider, however!

    Different uses for different situations, I think…



    • l0ve0utl0ud 23/04/2011 at 18:11 #

      You’re right, I had thought about exactly that fact when writing this post. The fruit that I had in mind were like the apples you mention – one must get them while they’re ripe, and to do that we must put in some effort to climb the tree. There are also the fruitfor which one must wait patiently…but that’s a topic for another post 😉

  2. Deborah the Closet Monster 23/04/2011 at 19:17 #

    I was thinking about this recently after a librarian I followed on Twitter grumbled about how he’d expected Twitter to be something magical, but that it hadn’t changed his life yet. He was totally, completely serious. He unfollowed everyone he’d followed thus far and continued tweeting about how disappointing everyone was while somehow not seeing where his own behavior fit into the scheme of not-life-changing tweets.

    It’s not a totally new thought, though I’d never framed it using this lovely analogy! It comes up a lot when I think of my law school days. I was a huge fangirl and worked as an extra on a bunch of shows. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I hoped something magical would happen and I’d be whisked out of my life into one a little more dreamy. I spent most of my law school experience just waiting for that to happen. I wasn’t totally passive, because I was out taking photos, doing extra work and writing for small ezines, but my life was characterized by the desire for someone else to come along and make my life more interesting.

    I love that I can remember wishing that, but know the peace of wishing it no longer. There are still goals I hope to achieve, but by and large, I’ve done the things I wanted to and set myself up to do still other things that fill my dreams. I’m not content to sit around waiting for opportunity to fall into my lap. I’m going to make my opportunity and be content with all the beautiful things I have–and they’re plentiful!–as I see new, other things I want to try.

    That’s not to say there won’t be ebbs in my energy. Losing my mom threw me off-balance for the better part of a year. I still have down days, though they’re much less frequent.

    It’s just that those ebbs? I understand them as temporary now. I’ve seen the goodness that comes from pursuing my dreams and will do my best to return to that road, whenever I fall off it.

    Thanks for the beautiful reminder!

    • l0ve0utl0ud 24/04/2011 at 16:34 #

      Yes, it is such a beautiful dream to imaginee someone coming along and changing our life into a fairy tale. But it is by realising that we are the only ones that can create this fairy tale that we begin to live the life of which we dream. Thank you for visiting Love Out Loud.

  3. sufeiyasworld 24/04/2011 at 22:40 #

    wonderful words here.
    growing up was always a struggle in knowing what i really wanted, (i was the one with the unfullfilled music career :p)
    but somewhere along the way you realize it has to be a fight for what you want, your future and your dreams.

    grow your tree, climb it and get fruit 🙂

    thanks for the post !

    • l0ve0utl0ud 24/04/2011 at 22:45 #

      We are the only ones that can make our own dreams come true! Thank you for stopping by at Love Out Loud.

  4. Piia 25/04/2011 at 06:59 #

    Couldn’t be more true. I spent many years trying and trying and trying to get someone very close to me to get up, to live, to fulfill their possibilities, to the extent that I came to see that I had let my own life slip through my fingers, I had spent my own energy on trying to get someone else to climb that tree. He still hasn’t, and I decided it was time I start climbing my own tree. Indeed, the branches may scratch, but there’s no other way.


    • l0ve0utl0ud 27/04/2011 at 21:19 #

      I understand – I too have known people whom I wanted to encourage, whom I wanted to help live out their potential. And then I realised that I had absolutely no power over them and that I had to stop wasting my time trying to ‘save’ other people and live my own life.

  5. tammyrowlandcoaching 26/04/2011 at 16:59 #

    You have to have a dream to have a dream come true! I think dreaming is necessary in life. Whether you are doing it sitting in the shade or that big old tree or on the highest branch, dreaming can be done day or night.

    Great blog!

    • l0ve0utl0ud 27/04/2011 at 21:16 #

      Exactly! If we do not know which fruit we want, how can we know which tree to climb? 😉

  6. merediiith 27/04/2011 at 21:49 #

    loved this post…

    you’re so right.

    we have to be self motivated & actively follow our dreams.

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