Tag Archives: Reality

The Right to be Amazing

28 Jun

Do you give yourself the right to be amazing or do you settle for being average? Until recently, I settled for the latter, but last week, a truly phenomenal thing happened, caused by nothing else but a shift in my attitude towards myself.

I have never been good at bowling – I usually come last or second to last in any game I play. I get one strike per game and usually by sheer chance. I do not know how to control the ball nor how to control the force with which I throw it. Being good at bowling has always been a mystery to me.


Last week I went bowling with a group of fifteen friends and on my first go a thought popped into my head “You have the right to be amazing. You have the right to win. Get a strike!”.

And guess what? I got a strike. So, on every go I said to myself “Give yourself the right to be amazing. Give yourself the right to win”.

VictoryAnd guess what? I didn’t get just one strike, not even two, not even three. I got enough strikes to make me win out of the group of fifteen people!

How do you explain the fact that a girl who has never won a game of bowling in her life got double the points of most of the other players?

For me, there is only one explanation for this: I gave myself the right to it.

I allowed myself to be great. I allowed myself to excel. I allowed myself to come first. I allowed myself to win.

A shift in my attitude towards what I have the right to be and to do caused a small miracle. I changed my thoughts from “I’m not good at bowling” to “I can be amazing”. And instantly my body replied to this affirmation by acting it out!

This was an amazing discovery for me – nothing could have been clearer proof of how our thoughts change our reality.

Have you ever noticed a very significant change in your reality following a change of attitude?

My Digital Diet

1 Feb

Something lifestyle-changing happened to me last week: my laptop was attacked by a virus and I had no access to the internet all week. I am not someone who uses a lot of technology in my daily life: I do not have a Smart Phone, I am not a member of any social networking sites and I don’t even use an mp3 player. I thought that technology didn’t play a large role in my life until I spent a week without the internet.

In the ‘internetless’ week I had no headaches and my eyes were never sore. I felt less agitated and fell asleep easier. I got out of the house more and read more in a week than I have done in months. I sorted out things in the house that had been in a mess for weeks. I read magazines that had been lying around since September and I even wrote a letter to a friend. I went for more walks, I cooked more and I was more active overall.

“What do I do in all those hours that I spend on the internet?” I asked myself when I saw how much I was getting done without it. I was shocked to find that I had no answer. Another question followed: Why do I spend so much time in the virtual world?” To this question I did have an answer: “Because it is easier than the real world”.

It is easier to surf the internet than to clean the house. It is easier to check e-mails from acquaintances than to talk to a loved one about one’s troubles. It is easier to watch YouTube videos than to try out that dance class. It is easier to read friends’ blogs than to get started on that novel. It is easier to find out about other people’s adventures than to go out and experience our own.

The internet has always given me an escape and an excuse. I can avoid the challenges and problems of my real life by distracting myself on the internet. What’s more, it is now socially acceptable to spend the majority of our time in front of the computer. It is even seen as odd or old-fashioned if someone isn’t married to the latest website or social network.

My week without the internet made me realise that I had become so good at living in a virtual world that I no longer knew how to live in the real one. I thought that technology was saving me time, when, in fact, it is making me waste away precious hours (or days, weeks, months?!) of my life.

After experiencing a week without the internet, I understood that there are so many activities that could bring a positive change to my life. I understood that I could dance more and write more; I could cook more and meditate more. I could explore the city more and read more books. I could laugh more and hug more. And I realised that the only way of finding time to do all of these wonderful things is to cut down the time that I spend on the internet.

A life without the internet isn’t possible in our society, nor is it something I wish for, but I hope that my week without it will always remind me to put real life first.

Do YOU need to go on a Digital Diet? Take The Telegraph’s Digital Diet quiz.

You may also find useful the Digital Diet quiz based on Daniel Sieberg’s book of the same name.

Thank You for Reminding Me

3 Dec

“It’s sunny outside”, for the first time in what seemed like months I lifted my head from my computer and looked out of my window.

My stunned eyes took in the beauty of the park in front of my house. When was the last time that I took notice of what was around me? As if in a trance, I got up from my desk and opened the balcony door. Like Alice in Wonderland I felt like I’d stepped into a fabulous new world.

A world where birds skip from tree to tree, and children ride scooters singing. A world where teenagers swing their rucksacks as they walk home from school. A world where elderly men smoke pipes as they carry fresh baguettes home for lunch.

The world right outside my window had become more distant than riots in Egypt, presidential campaigns in Russia and the state of the stock exchange. For weeks I was focused on one thing only: my work. New responsibilities, new expectations, new commitments. I would wake up with one thought in mind: to perform as well as I can at my job.

I studied, I focused and I worked. Sales, economy and business. All my thought-power and energy going onto my computer screen. All my thought-power and energy going onto things happening thousands of miles away. Laws, regulations and – most importantly – results.

This is not what you’re here for. Your work is not your reality.

I stood on my balcony for the first time in weeks.

Peace. Silence. Sunshine.

Rays of sun were warming the plants that I hadn’t watered for weeks.

A soft breeze came shyly towards me to say hello. We hadn’t seen each other for months. He wondered whether I remembered the moments we’d spent together in spring.

Leaves were yellow and discreet. Trees danced with eyes closed. They nodded to me with a smile, feeling my presence.

I breathed.

This is not what you’re here for. Your work is not the reality you wish.

The sun waited for me every day, but soon it let the clouds take over.

The birds sang outside my window, but soon moved to more welcoming lands.

The trees whispered sweet secrets, but fell silent when they realised that no-one was listening.

I was too busy thinking about international relations and corporate reputations to notice.

This is not what you came here for.

I know. Thank you for reminding me.